March 9, 2004

• Integrity of feelings is the art of being real with another person.  It seems to me that people have a hard time of being honest with each other.  Too many people want to spare each other’s feelings or save face or mind their own business.  Whatever a person’s intent, when they sugar coat their part in conversations and fail to reveal their true feelings on a matter, they essentially lie to that other person and worse, themselves.

  
  

  Part of the problem is people are often posed with the right and wrong dichotomy.  Realistically, there isn’t just one right answer.  In fact, all of our opinions and feelings are valid, aren’t they?  What we feel, and what we think are reactions to stimuli based on our past interactions and knowledge, none of which will be like anybody else’s.  How I react though, is just as valid as how you react.  I can accept that you have the privilege of feeling that way.  I don’t have to agree though.  You may be right, or you may be wrong.  We’ll get to find out in time.

  
  

  Political correctness has contributed to this beating around the bush rhetoric, and not tackling the issue head on.  It has veered away from its roots of being sensitive to all perspectives to being oversensitive to everything. 

  
  

  The expression of our feelings definitely is an art form, in that it’s available to everyone, but few people really exercise it.  To do that with another person, it makes it that much more of a masterpiece. 

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