January 10, 2005

  • I was able to hustle for another pass for two to the "Elektra" screening.  I have a couple of takers for the passes, and one more spot.  Maybe I can land another pass before the day is over.


    I had an interesting conversation with some folks regarding relationships, and how people's criteria change with age.  For example, age is a factor for a lot of people.  Aside from the whole "sex with a 17 year old or younger is statutory rape" but once one hits 21, I noticed how suddenly people don't even want to go to 18 and over parties.  It's some sort of invisible barrier.  It's not much of one, but it's there to get in the way.


    For example, John's "age range" has moved up as he has gotten older.  The range hasn't gotten larger, but just transported upward.  I asked him, "What if you meet a young person that is really mature and has a lot of life experience?"  He immediately responded that it still wouldn't work, because the two individuals are at a different place in their lives and will be looking for different things from the relationship.  John feels that his "window to meet someone at Davis" closes as time goes on.  He also feels that his working environment doesn't lend to meeting someone there.  John is far too social to not eventually meet someone again. 


    Another mutual friend, Golda, mentioned how even though people don't admit it, looks matter.  I had to add that height matters too.  At least, for the most part, it has in my experience.  All in all, it stems down to that initial attraction for one another, exclusive of charm and personality.


    Simon even chimed in that once you get "comfortable", you have to break it off.  I didn't quite understand that one, but others in the room seemed to agree.  I'll have to probe that comment more at a later time. 


    We even got into a conversation that girls are constantly thinking three steps ahead, and what a guy may think as a complete random act, is actually calculated and done to produce some sort of result.  Essentially, I think it's called manipulation.  I would like to add that that I believe that depends on the individual, and not necessarily due to gender or sexual preference.


    One commonality that John and I found was our penchant to date someone and our significant other's ability to land that long term, serious relationship afterwards.  One of my ex-girlfriends is now married and expecting, and one is in a long-term relationship, which will more than likely head in that direction.  My last ex-girlfriend I have lost touch with after she moved.  John and I agreed that we are awesome sculptors of great confidence in women.  John's caveat is that this concept usually happens to women that he has happened to meet who just got out of relationships, or as some would say, "on the rebound".


    As for me, my analysis of myself is that I am open to a younger woman who is mature, as long as we can connect in some amazing, indescribeable, ethereal way.  Of course physical attraction may be applicable, but intellectual and emotional attraction is a must.  I tend to notice hair, smile, and eyes, in that order.  Ultimately however, relationships are built on mutual attraction and understanding of two individuals.


    I remember a creation myth where people had 2 heads, 4 arms, and 4 legs.  They were happy and perfect.  Then the God of mischief went and used lightning and other higher powers to divide them up, and scattered them across the world, splitting up the beings to have one head, 2 arms, and 2 legs.  To this day, these people seek to be complete with their other half.  Just some hope that one is meant to be with someone out there in the world.